Kayte Knower, Co-President and Director of Curriculum for Knower Academics, the academic provider for Mountain Valley Treatment Center, examines the treatment of school-based anxiety in an article in the Summer 2016 Issue of National Association of Therapeutic Schools and Programs’ Education Newsletter.
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“A Year Ago” – MVTC Resident Reflects on Life After Graduation
We received the letter below from Emily M., a wonderful former resident who graduated from Mountain Valley “a year ago.” We share the letter with Emily’s permission.
A year ago today I was packing up my room in Farmhouse. A year ago today I was freaking out about going to a new place, having to ‘start over’. A year ago today we were sitting in the blue room and I finally got to smash my plate.
Today I’m writing to you from school. This semester I’ve been going to the local public high school instead of the school on-campus at my current program, and it’s been terrifying and amazing. I went to the districts-level music festival with my choir and sang a solo at our spring expo. I’ve finished and actually turned in a semester’s worth of difficult school assignments, and only a few of them have been late. I’ve failed a test and survived it. I’ve been home at least once a month. I’ve made an amazing group of friends. It’s been hard, no denying that, but it’s been good.
In ten days, I graduate from my current program and go home for the year until I go away again – this time to college. This coming year, though, is so incredibly exciting – I only have eight more credits that I need to graduate from high school. That goal of graduation is one that I know I can achieve now, when a year ago or even six months ago, I wasn’t sure. I’m enrolled at my local community college as a dual enrollment student, and I auditioned into the top level choir at my high school. I’m taking driver’s ed this summer. I’ve taken all the usual standardized tests, and exceeded my own expectations both in sitting for the tests and accepting the scores that I’ve gotten back. I feel like I’m actually headed somewhere, and it’s a direction I’m really liking.
Anyway. Today is kind of hard for me, partially because I miss Mountain Valley so much, and partially because thinking about where I was a year ago is weird and terrifying. I could hardly imagine feeling this hopeful and this accomplished when I left Mountain Valley, and now, even though I experienced it, I can’t imagine being back in a place where I felt that. A year has made a lot of difference.
I just wanted to let you know. Thanks for everything.
Emily M.
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Mother of MVTC Graduate Celebrates Son’s Success with Anniversary Thank You Email
Hi Carl,
It’s hard to believe, but four years ago today, May 18th, Jake graduated from Mountain Valley Treatment Center. Every year I celebrate the anniversary, remembering the joy I felt when we brought him home, and then each year, reveling in his accomplishments, all made possible because of the dedicated and caring therapists and staff at MVTC.
This anniversary is even more bittersweet… after four successful years in high school, he will be leaving this fall for Ithaca College. I am thrilled to watch him prepare for this next phase, and so very grateful that he is able to embrace this new journey,using the skills he learned with you.
This year on Mother’s Day, Jake made me a card, and quoted one of my favorite authors, Ann Patchett. She wrote, “just because things hadn’t gone the way I had planned didn’t mean they had gone wrong”. Wise words. And then he thanked me for helping him find the way…..
Thank you Carl, and everyone at Mountain Valley, for helping him find the way. I can’t wait to see what mountains he conquers next.
With gratitude,
Phyllis Leary
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Grateful Mother of Enhanced Academic Phase Graduate Shares Thoughts
The mother of a recent graduate of Mountain Valley’s Enhanced Academic Phase recently wrote to Don, expressing gratitude for the success her daughter is now experiencing. With permission, we share a slightly edited version of her email.
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Dear Don:
I received an email from Carl a week or so ago and that got me thinking about Mountain Valley again as I so often do. It occurred to me that you may want to know how, and what, your graduates are doing. To that end, I thought I’d share with you that our daughter has completed her first semester at college, has received all A’s, and has signed up for next semester. The much bigger win for her, and for us, is that despite her anxiety and occasional illness, she didn’t miss a single class! She is learning what works for her and how better to manage things. What a tremendous success.
This would never have been possible without Mountain Valley and, especially, your Enhanced Academic Phase program (https://mountainvalleytreatment.org/academics/enhanced-academic-phase/) – which I hope is continuing to expand and becoming even more robust. I believe it is a desperately needed and integral part of future success for kids going through your program. It’s my observation that anxiety for these kids so centrally impacts school, which in turn impacts their lives. When our daughter attended MV the first time, there was no EAP. She returned better than when she went to you, but was still unable to attend a main stream school. The second time, with the EAP program beginning, she was able to attain her goal of high school graduation and attend a “real” school, (college no less), which is something she hadn’t been able to do in four years.
All of the Knower personnel were professional and helpful and we are grateful to all, but I specifically wish to acknowledge JoAnn
Marchant for being instrumental in our daughter being on the path she is now. Her school here at home was problematic on many levels. Once JoAnn appeared on the scene, she was able to streamline the overly cumbersome and delayed work exchange, diplomatically handle an extremely difficult situation at the home school, and help our daughter realize her goal of a May graduation. I sincerely believe that without JoAnn, her May graduation goal would not have been realized and, consequently, it is very likely that she would have given up on high school and higher education entirely. JoAnn is an asset to be treasured!
Our daughter talks often of her times at Mountain Valley and the special people she met there, especially you, Don, Carl, Jay, Jon, Ryan and JoAnn. Ryan, you worked with her extremely well, and did fantastic work! As this New Year is beginning, I’m reaching out to you in gratitude and hoping that you are able continue the good things that you make happen there.
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MVTC Alum Celebrates Anniversary of her Graduation with Email to her “Momma Goose”
The heartfelt email, below, was written to a Mountain Valley therapist by a special young woman who graduated from MVTC in January 2015 – almost a year to the day. It says so much about the wonderful kids with whom we work – and the talented professionals who have such an impact on them. With the permission of both author and recipient, we share the email.
To My Momma Goose,
These past three years have put so much weight on my family’s shoulders. With constant change in med…ications, to shock treatments to my brain, we didn’t know what to do next. But then a gift was given to us. Mountain Valley Treatment Center is a gift that will always be cherished in my family. 2015 has become the best year for me because of them.
I learned that transitioning back home would be tough. I learned that little steps at a time was the greatest thing. I graduated high school after thinking I’d have to stay back a year. I got my first job, where I learned that people might not fight for you, and you have to do what’s best for yourself. I got my license and became so much more independent, but most of all, I learned how to respect myself, and to know that I deserve more than the words and actions I was being given. I learned just how strong and beautiful I really am. I finally became a true woman.
I want to thank so many people for their influence in this past year for me. Most importantly I want thank a woman that became an angel to me. My Momma Goose.
Sharon, you taught me so much strength and courage. You never backed down on anything with me. You showed me how some of my fears were normal but didn’t have to be in the way of my life.
Even though the chugging of seltzer water will always have me curse your name, you gave me hope, and my family hope.
You became an angel for me.
I hope the start to your 2016 is as beautiful and strong as you are.
Happy New Years, Momma Goose.
Emily K.
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Alicia Huysmans and Staff Thanked for Support of Holiday Event
We received a special email this morning from Denise Castonguay, Adult Living Coordinator for Mount Prospect Academy in Plymouth, NH, thanking Alicia Huysmans and the MVTC staff for their recent support of MPA’s holiday event. Denise’s email is copied below – great job Alicia and Co.!
There is nothing glamorous about raising funds for new programs. The average person may care about homelessness and veterans in need, but gets uncomfortable getting close enough to become part …of the solution. Thankfully this is not true about Alicia and the faculty at Mountain Valley Treatment.
When the director for The Bridge House, Cathy Bentwood and I decided to pull off a spur of the moment holiday event directly linked to our veterans advocacy program, our backs were up against the wall. We had a tight time frame, no data base of supporting volunteers, and a community already saturated with request for help.
Alicia, and the faculty at Mountain Valley, immediately raised their hands and asked how they could help. With little guidance from us, they created and supported one of the free events offered for families at the Cookie Walk. The generosity and creativity they brought to our fund raiser gave parents exactly the quality experience necessary for success.
Thank you for this unique partnership and for sharing our vision of community based leadership between area agencies.
With gratitude, Denise
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Recent MVTC Resident Gives Heartfelt Graduation Speech before Returning to Hawaii
As many of you know, MVTC residents “graduate” once successfully completing their treatment goals. One of the most powerful traditions at Mountain Valley is the usually emotional graduation ceremony, during which the proud graduate is asked to address the audience, composed of fellow residents, staff, and family. One recent grad, Joelle Higa from Honolulu, Hawaii, experienced a longer than usual journey through MVTC, first successfully completing the therapeutic phase, then moving on, and graduating from, Mountain Valley’s Enhanced Academic Phase. Joelle now returns to the prestigious Punahou School (alma mater of President Obama, among other notables), and with her and her parents’ permission, we share her heartfelt graduation speech with all of you!
204 days ago, I set foot in the snowy Mountain Valley parking lot. 204 days later, as I’m writing this speech on my last ride to Baker, I’m trying to think of ways to express my gratitude to everyone who’s been on this long journey with me, but I realized that nothing I say or write will ever make anyone fully understand how much I appreciate everything that has happened since I arrived here in the dead of winter.
That being said, I can honestly say that my time at Mountain Valley has definitely saved and changed my life. I have been putting off figuring out what I’m going to say because I don’t even think it’s possible to take all the emotions inside of me and transpose it to make sense on a piece of paper.
I could probably ramble on for literally hours and hours thanking every single one of you in this room, but given the time constraints, I will try to make this short- ish.
Mountain Valley has definitely opened up my eyes to all the wondrous things this world has to offer that I was just too preoccupied to notice before. I discovered the best adrenaline rush in the world when sliding the tip of my snowboard over the edge of a black diamond, felt the carefree rush of the crisp air as I biked alongside the country-side, and experienced the thrill of jumping off a rock into a river on a blazing hot summers day. I think that at least 90% of the activities I’ve participated in here were a first for me.
204 days ago, I would have never thought I’d be rolling and sliding in a big field of mud, giving a finger-painted horse a bath, or holding worms while going fishing. I also never thought that I would be getting what I thought in the past were unsatisfactory grades and then being able to move on with life. Even though I never, ever would have imagined me doing those things, I’m glad I can, because the most important thing I’ve learned throughout my stay at Mountain Valley is that- I don’t need a perfect life…all I want is a happy life. In my eyes, if I’m happy, then that’s basically as close to perfect, as I will get.
Fellow residents:
As I’ve probably by now seen at least 80-ish people come and go throughout my entire stay, I would really like to thank you for helping me recognize and remember the strong value of friendship that I had so long forgotten. It’s been a long time since I can actually remember the feeling of being in a true friendship as I had other priorities at the time, but because every resident here at Mountain Valley is so supportive, understanding, and kind, it made it extremely hard to isolate. Ultimately, I now know that no letter grade or big final is ever going to be more important than having friends that you can count on.
I know that all of you will do amazing things in your journey through the rest of your treatment at Mountain Valley and after Mountain Valley, because just the fact that you’re here and working on things makes you a whole lot stronger than you may think you are.
Staff:
As I’ve said in your letters, “you must know that I greatly appreciate all the work you did to help me here at Mountain Valley because it really did change and save my life. It’s people like the staff at Mountain Valley that come to work solely because they truly care about what they’re doing that really help make a difference in this world. You really do make a huge impact on each and every one of the resident’s lives for the better. I’m very grateful for all of the knowledge, advice, and support you have given me, and I’ll be sure to remember the things I’ve learned from you and apply them to my daily life back in Hawaii.”
Knower Academics:
Thank you so much for helping me through and putting up with all my academic anxiety and all of my concerns and worries regarding my work. Without the Knower Academics instructors, I wouldn’t have been able to work on my perfectionistic tendencies or anxiety about bad grades. Most of all, I’d like to thank Knower for giving me the confidence I’ve often lacked in myself in regards to my ability to perform academically.
Jeanette:
It’s been a SUPER DUPER long and wild ride, so thank you so much for being there for me as I stumbled down the bumpy road of ups and downs. You are literally SUPER WOMAN! —Not only can you bench press like 100 billion pounds, work like a million jobs, but also manage to be such an AMAZING, and helpful therapist who I will never, ever forget and will miss very dearly.
I feel like this speech or whatever this is getting really long, so the rest will be in the letter I wrote you (and also because I will really, really lose it if I keep going).
Mom, Dad, and Jacie:
Thank you for going on every step of this long and ongoing journey with me, because I’m well aware that it must have not been easy. I’ve missed you guys very dearly and am so, so very excited to be coming home so we can live as a family again. I’m so extremely blessed and fortunate for getting the chance to have gone and learned so much about myself here at Mountain Valley, and I would just like to thank both of you for always providing me with the tools to learn and grow to provide me to be successful- but most importantly, happy.
Mom- You are my inspiration, I know how tremendously hard you work your very high positioned and stressful job everyday, and I’m well aware of all the things you have accomplished and overcome to be able to support Jacie and I today. Not only are you an inspiration as a hard worker, you also know how to be a caring and supportive mother who always puts the needs of others before hers.
Dad- When ether it be in academics, golf, or whatever I’m inclined to do, you are my supporter. Ever since I was little, you’ve told me to never give up, and you told me you’d always be there for me no matter what. Yes, you may be strict and a little OCDish at times, but I want you to know that you’re still my best friend and have always been since I told you that when I was really young.
Jacie- I know we are polar opposites and I was too preoccupied with school work to interact with you in the past, but I want you to know that I have always loved you very much and am determined to be the big sister that I know I can be when I get back home. I’m excited for all the memories we will make in the future as you are truly such an amazing and thoughtful person (well…most of the time…haha).
To sum it up, I’m forever thankful to everyone in this room for helping me through everything, and for helping me regain the will to live.
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Grateful Father of Recent MVTC Grad Writes an Ode To Mountain Valley
The father of a recent graduate was so moved by his daughter’s MVTC experience that he wrote a thank you note in the form of an ode. In addition to celebrating her success, he highlights a few of the very special people who impacted his daughter during her days at MV. Please take a few minutes to read –
An Ode to Mountain Valley
Once upon a time, there was beautiful baby bear princess who had a momma and papa bear who loved her very, very much. The beautiful baby princess bear had long golden locks which shimmered in the sunshine and glimmered in the moonshine.
The princess lived in quaint little village surrounded by forests in which wild dogs roamed, along with deer, moose and other vermin. The baby princess bear loved all the creatures in the forests; some of her friends sometimes said that they thought that she could speak with those creatures.
Momma and papa bear always knew where the baby bear was because of her brilliantly shining locks. Her shining smile and brilliant locks often drew many villagers wherever she went. They would tell her stories, and she would smile and listen. On her walk home each night, she thought about their stories while looking for the glow from the lantern on her front doorway to guide her home. When she returned home each night, the momma and papa bear would throw their arms around her, make her something good to eat, and tuck her in for a good night sleep.
Sometimes the baby bear would get up in the middle of the night, and by light of her own lantern, wander the village, or write stories, filled with profound wisdoms of the world. After writing, she could usually go to sleep and dream. But, as time went by, her adventures in the village made her unexplainably, more and more tired. And each morning she awoke, her energy faded and her sparkle became dimmer.
Her parents became worried as they watched her beautiful golden locks lose its shimmer and started to change from bright shiny gold and yellow, to earthen browns and rocky grays. As her energy and light faded, her parents began to get so worried that they sought out the help of many different people in the village. These people suggested various potions for the little bear to drink, and salves that the parents should massage into the beautiful young princess before she went to sleep each night. But none of these efforts helped rejuvenate the princess’ hair or the light in her eyes, which now was also fading. Her parents then took her to witch doctors and wise women who tried to help the family rekindle the princess’ light. Lastly, they tried to rekindle her light with their own family lantern, but mysteriously, that glow from their flame was so weak – too weak to help cure the baby girl.
Finally, the baby bear’s hair and eyes became ashen and her parents were so full of fear and desperate to help their daughter that they sought out the help of a wise man who told them of a magical place tucked among the mountains and lay a day’s journey to the west. He assured them that in this place flowing with milk and honey, not only could the baby’s light be rekindled, but also the family’s light that was flickering could also be refueled. The family was skeptical that such a place actually existed. Even though they had traveled far and wide, seen beautiful places, and met many different charming people, they couldn’t believe that such an enchanted place existed.
But the momma and papa bear talked, and desperately gathered up the princess’ belongings, wrapped her up in special cloak, and set off to this secret place.
After almost a full day’s journey crossing rivers and streams, climbing over mountains, and driving through valleys, they finally crested one final mountain; from the top of which they indeed gazed upon a lush green valley, with a gleaming house from which wafted delicious smells of strawberry shortcake, chocolate chip cookies, pizza and candy, roasted rabbit, suckling pig; and other vermin. Surrounding this gleaming house there were other outhouses which did not smell as good as the yummy house. The family knew they had finally arrived at enchanted kingdom of which the wise man had spoken. Though the baby bear was not certain if this was actually a safe place to be, the papa bear dashed right into the house without a second thought in search of the yummy smelling delectables. The mom and baby bear followed and indeed met a friendly, warm man with a beard and baker’s cap. He offered them fresh fruit and warm milk. The baby bear then met a broad friendly man, who wore magic boots, had a shiny head, and a chummily smile. He told them lots and lots of stories of the land in which they were, and then he told them more stories about the land. He listened to the family as they told them of their plight, and desperate wishes for their family. He was pensive, and then forthright, and then whisked them off in his carriage for a tour of the valley.
When they returned to one of the outhouses, they were introduced to a man who emerged from a small cave. This man greeted the family warmly with a quick hello. The family noticed a slight twinkle in his eye, but it was only for an instant and each of them was not certain that they had actually seen the glint. They soon learned that this man from the cave was actually a wise guide, who would soon lead the baby girl into his cave in search of gems, super foods, and fuel for her lantern which was then almost out. This journey was one which the princess would have to embark on without her parents.
The family entrusted their precious jewel to the chummily man and curious cave man to nourish her body and soul from which her gleaming light had always shown. They left her in this strange and foreign land. Though the baby bear girl was somewhat frightened, she smiled as her parents drove away.
The first few days in this new land were difficult. Life there was very different from life at home. In fact, the next few weeks were difficult. And just as things seemed to be getting easier, they got more difficult. Each day she would meet the warm friendly man from the cave, and he would gradually guide her down through tunnels and rooms in the cave. He carried a bright lantern, and put some new fuel in her lantern which she had brought from home. Every day, they ventured further into the cave, and discovered new rare gems and interesting foods on the wall for them to eat. Even though each day, as they went into the cave, her lantern became brighter and brighter, and as they went deeper, each day the adventures were even scarier than then the day before. However, when they reemerged from the caverns each day, the girl felt stronger, more so than relieved, to be out of the catacombs.
Some days her parents joined her on her journey. Their guide was always next to them, pointing out sources of sustenance that kept nursing them all back to full strength. Each day the girl’s lantern became stronger and stronger. One day, without any warning, the family squeezed their bodies through a tight space between two rocks at the end of one of the tunnels. As they emerged from the tunnel, they were stunned as they gazed upon a room which was as big as a city. As oversized as they sometimes felt crawling through some of the tight pathways in the cave, they now felt so tiny as they marveled at ceiling thousands of feet above their heads, covered with jewels of infinite hues and teaming with life that they couldn’t have imagined existed so deep underground. The kind cave man let them know that he had to leave them now, and pointed out many of the different tunnels that connected to this room. Each tunnel had a different colored light coming from it.
Though they were somewhat afraid to leave the side of the cave man, as his lantern had always been the brightest of all the lanterns they carried, he guided their attention to the fact that all of their lanterns were now shining as brightly as his! Though the girl, especially, was very sad to see the man go, she was elated to be back in the arms of her parents; and all together they climbed down a path into the underground city to explore.
That day, when they emerged from the cave, they were remarkably refreshed. The air was light, cool and delicious. And the girl’s eyes were sparkling, and her golden locks were now sparking again. But, now her hair glimmered with many more colors than before. Her parents threw their arms around her, gathered her up with love and joy, bid the enchanted land adieu, and sped off in search of more adventures together.
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Fostering Relationships with Schools Increases Awareness for MVTC
A number of MV residents come to us directly from public and independent schools, so we do much to foster relationships with administrators and health counselors from those schools. An important part of the building of relationships with schools is to visit them and to have them, in turn, visit MVTC – a teen treatment center for adolescents with anxiety and related disorders. We would encourage schools interested in learning more about MV to contact Carl Lovejoy, Associate Execute Director for External Relations, to schedule a tour and an opportunity to meet with our staff. Carl can be reached at clovejoy@mountainvalleytreatment.org.One such recent visit to MV was made by Kim Ross and Marge Cook from Brewster Academy (www.brewsteracademy.org) in Wolfeboro, NH. After her visit, Kim, Brewster’s Dean of Academic Support Programs, wrote:
“Dear Carl, Don, Jen, Greg and all who are a part of making MVTC such a special place,
Our day with you was so special and we truly appreciate the time you spent with us! For everyone to gather around to meet us was truly an exceptional welcome! You are all an incredibly talented community of people who have created a program that offers young people an opportunity to feel safe and valued while they work to understand and face their anxiety or whatever challenges they face. The holistic and comprehensive care approach sets you apart from so many other centers. The exposure curriculum was so fascinating for us to hear about as well as having an opportunity to have Greg bring us around to visit the horses. Marge and I walked away feeling filled with excitement, inspiration, and hope for the young people you support. Clearly, you all provide a life changing experience for young people! We look forward to partnering with you in the very near future to discuss teacher training and/or student placement. Lets stay in touch!
Healthiest regards, Kim
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“Mountain Valley Saved My Daughter’s Life.”
On Monday, April 21, we welcomed Grace Adam and her father, Bob, back to Mountain Valley. Grace graduated from Mountain Valley, a teen treatment center, almost two years ago to the day, and wanted to return to spend time with her old friends on the staff, meet the current residents, and learn about some of the changes that have occurred since she was here in the Spring of 2012. Bob wanted to return, in large part, to thank the program that, he is quick to tell people, saved Grace’s life. Grace will be graduating from East Greenwich (RI) High School in June, spend the summer on Martha’s Vineyard coaching sailing at Edgartown Yacht Club, then head to College of Charleston (her first choice) in the fall where she looks forward to continuing her sailing career.
Interested is speaking with Bob Adam about why he is so grateful to Mountain Valley? Send an email to Jen Fullerton, Mountain Valley’s Intake Coordinator, and she’ll share Bob’s contact information with you. Jen can be reached at jfullerton@mountainvalleytreatment.org. Bob, and other members of our Parent Partners network, serve as informational resources for prospective parents. In addition, Grace Adam is a valuable resource, too, and would be happy to speak with any prospective residents.
We thank Grace and Bob for their continued interest in, and support of, MVTC!